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I am very excited to share that the Huffington Post Gay Voices is carrying my second piece. The first one that they carried was my piece on the TSA and it kind of changed my life as far as visibility and legitimacy. I was afraid that I would only get that one shot. Especially because most of my stuff is fun and fluffy, rather than serious like that painful piece.

Thankfully, I was wrong and they have a fun piece up today. Hooray! Would you please head over there and check it out?

Thank you all for your support!

The King Treatment

March 31, 2013April 18, 2017 by Butch

I’m enjoying my third trip to Japan. All have been for business. This means several things. First, it means that I have a carefully planned agenda, filled with meetings, occasional sight-seeing events, cool meals (with tons of people), and nice accommodations. I love to travel, but I don’t fly business class when I am traveling for pleasure. … Read more

It's Not That Complicated

March 27, 2013 by Butch

Today, I texted my daughter to see if she knew what happened yesterday at the Supreme Court. Turns out, it’s just not that complicated. It went like this: Me: Yesterday the US Supreme Court listened to lawyers argue about the right for gays to get married. Remember Prop 8, honey? The one we went and … Read more

Why 8 was Enough & Still is

March 26, 2013 by Butch

Posted this last year, before the Supremes chose to take the Prop 8 and DOMA cases. Slightly out of date, but still good history for those who are curious.

Three Lesbians Walk Into a Strip Club

March 19, 2013April 18, 2017 by Butch

So, in my last post I left off with the statement, “Umm, how about a strip club?” Well… Yes! We had a winner. Into a cab we piled and headed way off the strip to Olympic Gardens. I’ve never been here before, but it’s a bit of a Vegas institution. The bottom floor is women … Read more

The Pleasure Pit

March 11, 2013April 18, 2017 by Butch

So I was with friends in Vegas recently – just for fun. One of the people in our group was having a birthday and so it was off to Vegas we go. This is the first time that I have found myself in Vegas as a single person. Ever. Woohoo! I promised myself and my … Read more

On Being Butch … and Tristan

March 2, 2013April 18, 2017 by Butch

Usually as a big ol’ butch, I don’t have to come out. Walk into a room, people know I’m a lesbo – unless they mistake me for a dude. Whatev. But recently, I had to decide whether to come out. Again. The first time I was 17. I knew it would happen. It had to … Read more

Why I Hate TSA

February 13, 2013April 18, 2017 by Butch

Some days are worse than others. I’ve talked a lot here about what I experience as a butch. Specifically, how people interact with me because I do not conform to gender identities that they expect. I feel all lined up on the inside. I am a woman physically, and I feel like a woman. But … Read more

The Bromance

February 11, 2013April 18, 2017 by Butch

I’m excited to talk about this with y’all. Traditionally, “bromance” means a non-sexual relationship of great affection between guys. Think Hangover (the first one, not the sequel, because that was lame); those guys have a bromance. It may even be that the term originated with the movie genre – like “chick flicks” (shudder, no thank … Read more

Butch Bible: A How-to Guide for the Proper Butch

February 6, 2013April 18, 2017 by Butch

I am working on a compendium of sorts, a listing of all things butch. Guidance for me and my beloved Butches. My hope is that we will build a primer that can be used for generations to come. [Cue dramatic music.] If you send me thoughts you have for good verses, I will include them … Read more