Be Butch.
Miriam-Webster: Stare ( ster ) Etymology: Middle English, from Old English starian; akin to Old High German starēn to stare, Greek stereos solid, Lithuanian starinti to stiffen. Date: before 12th century 1 : to look fixedly often with wide-open eyes — star·er noun My aunt came to visit for my mom’s 65th birthday and I had … Read more
Butches are different. We know this. Obviously. Here is a great example of just how different. A few days ago, I wrote about the pockets in my new velvet suit coat. I bought that well-pocketed suit coat to wear to a black tie event, a lawyers’ ball. [Side note (or maybe sidebar): there are many … Read more
Why do women’s clothes fail to have pockets? I haven’t worn them in a while, mind you, but I remember when I did that I was always very frustrated with the lack of pockets. Last night, I wore a suit jacket (velvet) that had no less than six – count ‘em, six – pockets. Fully … Read more
The other day I was dropping my 5-year old off at preschool. On my way to the parking lot, what do I see? A flock of ladies dealing with jumping a minivan (of course). I was parked right next to the jumpee. There are at least three ladies from the church (it’s a Lutheran preschool, … Read more
It’s funny how I fit into the straight parenting world. I’m not comfy with “the moms” but it’s not like I feel totally in sync with “the dads.” Again, I cannot help but ponder on the differences, albeit slight, in being butch. Take my son’s t-ball practice. I took him to his first one and … Read more
I think it’s safe to assume that porn is part of every man’s life. But how about us butches? Roll call…who reads porn? Do you indulge in a Playboy or Playgirl every now and then? To be clear, I do not mean with your partner. That kind of reading is different (and much sexier) than … Read more
Attention all butches and straight guys! This is a public service announcement for Valentine’s Day. What’s that, you say? It’s over two weeks away? More than 14 days? No need to worry about that yet. You have plenty of time. WRONG! Please allow me to give you some advice. Let me offer some tidbits I … Read more
Today, as we sat at the Loving Hut for lunch, it occurred to me just how far I have fallen from my former self. I grew up as a meat eater – a meat lover, really. Beef, mashed potatoes, and corn was a typical meal. Or, ham, mashed potatoes, and corn. Or, pork chops, mashed … Read more
Today we stopped at a fancy yoga boutique so that my fiancé could get a bag for the gym. There is this one lovely bag that is pewter with lots of pockets (I am told) that she really wants. It even comes with a secret brownie recipe tucked into one of those pockets. The bag … Read more
As many good butches, I love ties. Bow ties, long ties, skinny ties, fat ties – I love them all. For a butch, a tie is a major fashion statement. It dresses an outfit up. It makes an outfit cool. It can add a bit of uber-geek nerdiness to an urban sheik outfit – for … Read more