Be Butch.
My wife and I are at a hotel getting ready this morning. We went to see my favorite comedian Trevor Noah last night. Like many people, I aways feel a bit playful at a hotel. I don’t know why. Maybe because you don’t have to make your bed? Maybe because you don’t know anyone around … Read more
Tonight, while my wife was packing, she asked me to fix her nice Swarovski crystal earrings for her. There was a moment after she asked me – before I said yes – where she doubted my abilities. At least that’s what I thought when she said, “I guess I can do it.” “What do you … Read more
I realized today that the next post I write will be my 200th – in other words, this one. Wow. Happy 200th! Here are some observations from me on this momentous occasion: Writing is good for me. Sometimes it is easy. Other times it is almost impossible. But it is always good for me. There … Read more
Have you heard of Tomboy Toes? They are a new shoe company designing for women, butches, trans people, MOC folks – and anyone who might want a more masculine shoe than those traditionally found in the women’s section. I have been paying attention to them for some time now, watching their progress and rooting them … Read more
This weekend I did some work in the garden. Dirty, difficult work. Adding sprinklers to each rose bush that we planted to keep our dog off of the back hill. Julia Childs’ Roses, in case you are curious. I am not a rose kind of Butch. Not much into gardening. I have a black thumb, … Read more
My wife and I had an interesting moment this morning. She was watching Mary Lambert’s new video, Know Your Name. My wife tells me that “Callie” from Gray’s Anatomy, Sara Ramirez, is in the video. I like her, so I look over. Just in time to see her unhooded (she is actually in a mysterious … Read more
Who knows what I mean when I say “chosen family?” These are people that you choose to think of and treat like family. You weren’t born with or adopted into them. You choose each other. I am an only child. Ask any of my past girlfriends or my wife, they will tell you. “Butch is … Read more
I recently wrote about my friend Toni and her first self-tied bow tie. She was so excited she shared that with me in a text. She later called me her “Fairy GodButch” because I’d helped her a (little) bit with butch fashion. I helped her feel comfortable exploring all of her options. The outpouring of … Read more
I have been out and visible since I was 18. I came out through the fire of a fanatical Christian cult (still hard to admit). I have been an out lesbian, dyke, butch, in all its glorious splendor for almost 30 years. I have fought first for gay rights, then lesbian and gay rights, then … Read more
I’ve got a new post up over on the Huffington Post. Will you go check it out for me? Maybe like it so the good folks at HuffPost know some people read what I write? It’s Butch to support ButchOnTap on Huffington Post. Be Butch.