Lesbianland: The Dinah

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We woke up this morning fairly early – 9. Texted friends to see what was afoot for breakfast. Both of us are tired because we went to bed about 3:30, but there’s an impetus to get back to the fun.

Like when you go to Disneyland (or any theme park) and you are so tired of walking by like 1:00, but you have to see the whole park, ride everything, not miss anything! Well, being at The Dinah is kind of the lesbian version of that. It’s lesbian Disneyland. Lesbianland. And you want to see it all. Not miss anything. Ride everything (cough).

So we are back at it this am. Last night was rad. We arrived in time to get our press credentials (“creds”) before they closed down the table. Then we zipped off to grab a bite. That was a funny fail, however, as we misjudged our timing. Can you bring us our appetizers (all we ordered) in take out containers? After getting our creds, we ran out to the car and ate our appetizers in the street. 3 lesbians trying to down giant Italian meatballs with only one napkin and one fork. Then, into the fray.

It’s my first time working the red carpet as press. I have creds, so behind the red velvet rope we go, along the step and repeat. We cram in and wait for the lengthy list of celesbians (that’s celebrity lesbians) to arrive and smile for us. I have my big camera rig (which looks very professional) and my wife is my second shooter with a smaller camera (still a serious one, tho). The plan is: figure out the red carpet, don’t trip, get at least a few good shots to show y’all. And maybe talk to a few celebs.

We were on target – mostly. The press line was way more crowded than we expected and it was impossible to get a spot along the rope. I’m tall, so I tried to make it work. Holding the camera up with one arm is hard. Shooting over the woman’s bun in front of me was even harder. I did my level best though.

We got good shots – more than I expected. I didn’t trip. Batting a thousand. No interviews though. But then, my friend Fortune Feimster came right over to say hi and we had a chat. I was really happy – I look like real press!

After the press line, my wife and I went out to stash the heavy cameras. Then, we got a chance to meet Lauren Bedford Russell and Kiyomi McClosky in the VIP area (love those press creds!). Recall that I interviewed Kiyomi last year. Well, I interviewed Lauren just recently, but both interviews were on the phone. It was really nice to make the in person connection with two such genuine and cool women.

After that, it was into the party for some drinks and dancing. We ended up sitting outside for a bit, and having wonderful conversations with friends, old and new. This is my wife’s first time at The Dinah. So far, so good!

I’ll share about today and tonight later. We will make it through the day. We have to. It’s Lesbianland. We are going to see everything. Do everything. Ride everything – just as a figure of speech of course!

It’s butch to go to Lesbianland. Be Butch.


Your Guide to Everything Dinah!

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This is it! It started. The Dinah is on in Palm Springs. Headed out? Thinking about it? Here’s your guide to all things happening this weekend. I’ll be there, tweeting, posting, snapping pics. I’m even thinking we’ll do a mini meet up for anyone who wants to say hi. Anyone interested? If so, let me know.

More than 15,000 women from all over the world are once again expected to gather in Palm Springs, CA, to attend the biggest lesbian event of its kind in the world, Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend – the original Dinah Shore Weekend – slated for April 2 to April 6, 2014 (www.thedinah.com).

Celebrating this year its milestone 24th Anniversary, The Dinah is a one-of-a-kind destination where women of all ages, interests, ability, relationship status, cultural background and profession come together for one big giant celebration of the community. A life changing experience offering lesbians the opportunity to express themselves, to be who they truly and gain a tremendous amount of self worth.

The Dinah is also a unique five-day affair of lesbionic luxury and fun complete with epic pool parties, unique high-profile nightlife events, celebrity appearances, live performances, a famous celebrity Dodgeball game, a film festival, a Celebrity Poker Tournament, philanthropy, the hottest women, the best DJs, and so much more.

Turning this year again the city of Palm Springs into the ultimate entertainment hub, the 2014 Dinah Entertainment Roster delivers an epic slate of Top Ten Billboard headliners that make up one hell of a line up – one of the greatest in The Dinah’s history.

Headlining this year is Lesbian cult favorites Tegan and Sara. The pop sensation duo will bring their “Heartthrob” world tour to The Dinah with an exclusive concert on Saturday, April 5 at “The Black Party”
at the Palm Springs Convention Center. The twin sisters have been on an unstoppable meteoric rise since the release of their 7th studio album “Heartthrob” and the massive success of their lead single “Closer”. Their Dinah performance marks the first time the pop stars perform at an all lesbian event.

Also headlining the “Black Party” is female rap titan Eve. The Grammy-Award winning rapper will perform her slew of music anthems including “Satisfaction,” “Who’s That Girl”, “Gangsta Lovin’”, and “Let Me Blow Your Mind”. Also set to top the bill at the epic lesbian party is hip-hop’s biggest revelation Iggy Azalea who will take center stage at the iconic “White Party”, Friday, April 4 at the Palm Springs Convention Center.

The Dinah 2014 will also be rocked with special performances from 2014 Grammy nominee Mary Lambert, the voice behind Macklemore & Ryan Lewis’ VMA award-winning pro-equality “Same Love”; Grammy Award-Winning R&B diva, Evelyn “Champagne” King known for her multi-million selling classic old-school smashes “Shame” and ”Love Come Down”; Thea Austin, the legendary voice of “Rhythm is a Dancer” by Snap!; and power, pop/punk band and stars of “The Real L Word” Season 3, Hunter Valentine, to name a few.

On the comedy front, “The Dinah Comedy Night” hosted by Suzanne Westenhoefer will be headlined by Fortune Feimster of E! “Chelsea Lately”. The loveable Southern comic will be joined by Last Comic Standing alumni, British comic Gina Yashere and stand up’s fastest rising star, Erin Foley.

Returning this year is the “Celebrity Poker Tournament” with all proceeds going to the Human Rights Campaign (HRC). Celebrities joining the poker tables include Jill Bennett (“Second Shot”), Chef K (ABC “The Taste”), Guinevere Turner (“American Psycho”), Ari Fitz (“MTV The Real World Ex-Plosion”), Gloria Bigelow (“Wanda Sykes Presents Herlarious”), Tracy Ryerson (“The Real L Word”), and Brittany Wiener (Bravo “Millionaire Matchmaker”) among many others.

Also coming back is The Dinah Film Festival presented by OML, held on Friday, April 4, at 8:00 p.m at the Hilton Hotel. Produced by award-winning filmmaker JD DiSalvatore (the producer of Shelter, Marine Story and Elena undone, to name a few), the Dinah film Festival will showcase a variety of quality lesbian films including “Little Horribles” “Nikki & Nora”, “Kiss Her I’m Famous”, “Dyke Central”, and the short film “Secrets & Toys”, among others.

New this year is the “Battle of the DJs” hosted by Dinah’s resident DJs Lezlee, Asha, Lisa Pittman, Saratonin and Amara. The competition held over two-days will feature some of the best DJs on the West Coast!

If that weren’t hot enough, did we mention the exclusive L Word Pool Party?
Hosted in association with Showtime, The L Word Pool party will be held on Saturday April 5 at the Hilton Hotel.

L Word iconic stars, Leisha Hailey and Kate Moennig will, respectively, step back one more time into their famed Alice Pieszecki and Shane McCutcheon shoes for an exclusive meet and greet hosted from 2:30pm to 5:00pm in the grand Ballroom.

Joining the Dinah’s exclusive L Word cast member reunion is Laurel Holloman, aka Tina Kennard, who will be showing and selling her prints of a series entitled “Written on the Body”, poolside at the Palm Springs Hilton Hotel, all day, Saturday, April 5 during the L Word Pool Party and Sunday April 6 during the “Wet & Wild Pool Party”.

Holloman’s appearance at the Dinah will mark her second exclusive private showing for Club Skirts, something she wanted to give to her fans and art lovers for their continuous support. Dinah attendees will be able to purchase posters of her pieces and meet with The L Word star that will be on hand to personally sign each copy.

As this year marks the 10th Anniversary of the official television debut of The L Word, Club Skirts and SHOWTIME are proudly commemorating the nostalgia of a memorable era in lesbian culture that celebrated out loud our “girls in tight dresses who drag with mustaches”!

The epic five-day world-renown weekend is already making a lot of noise and is well on its way to be the biggest Dinah EVER.

You’d never seen anything like it yet … this is going to be an unforgettable year!

For all the latest updates, the full Dinah 2014 schedule of events, entertainment line-up, as well as hotel information, tickets and VIP package options please go to: http://www.TheDinah.com>;


Go Figure!

I’m excited to announce that I have decided to train for and compete in a Figure Competition. These are the women with mad muscles, zero fat on their bodies. It takes a ridiculous amount of training and commitment. No carbs. No cheese. No beer. Yes, no beer. I’m not sure I can do it, frankly. I have friends who do and they put me to shame.

If things go well, I’ll be in the best shape of my life. Actually, that will probably be true even if I fall far short of my goal.

I almost let the bikini requirement and the tanning stop me. But, then… where are we if we are afraid to try?

It’s butch to wear a bikini. It’s also butch to enjoy an April Fools joke. Be Butch.

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The Joy of the Game: Reflecting on Watching Baseball Instead of Playing

I’m watching my son play baseball. That means on this particular afternoon, I am sitting alone along the backstop in my relatively comfortable camp chair. Today I am alone, though that’s not the norm. The grandparents didn’t make this game, and my wife is at home with my daughter. As thrilling as the game is for my son, and of course for me, it’s less than riveting for my daughter — especially on a school night. With homework. Indeed, I’m worried about my son being out till 7 on a school night. But, it is what it is, and we will see.

Anywho, as I’ve said before, I’m not necessarily the chattiest mom on the field and so I sit by myself. The other parents are lovely, to be sure, this is just my thing to deal with. As I sit by myself — riveted on my son when he’s in play (so to speak) — I can’t help but let my mind wander.

Head over to Huffington Post to read the rest, won’t you?

Thank you!


Raising Capital

Hi friends,

I’m thinking of doing a Kickstarter or Indiegogo campaign to raise money to fund some ButchOnTap stuff. Specifically, I need to register my new trademark (and finish paying my designer), and I’d really like to get some merchandise made. I was thinking T-shirts, bumper stickers, and maybe some bow ties. But I have so many questions running through my head. Like:

1. What do y’all think?
2. Is it a dumb idea?
3. Have any of you done a campaign? 4. Did it work?
5. Which company did you use?
6. Any tips?
7. Would any of you contribute if I did one?
8. If so, what reward might you like?

I appreciate all feedback on this one. Thank you! It’s butch to give advice. Be Butch.


I’m going. Are you?

Ohmygod, am I ever getting excited! Have you ever been to Dinah? Do you know what I’m talking about? Maybe you are a baby butch who just came out. Maybe you are an established butch who never thought Dinah was for you (because you don’t play golf). Maybe you live in a galaxy far, far away from Palm Springs. Whatever the reason, if you don’t know about The Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend (affectionately dubbed, “Dinah“), you need to come! Let me elaborate.

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This is a huge party in the desert. It’s more than a weekend (for those of you who can take a few days off), and it is filled with lesbians, pool parties (read: Bikinis), comedy, hot DJs, go-go dancers (who flirt with you), booze, celelesbians (celebrity lesbians), a film festival, and, I’m told, lots of hooking up. Honestly, that’s not my style, but I understand if it is your style, opportunities abound.

Palm Springs is gorgeous. There is all kinds of fun stuff to do, see, play, and listen to. But there is nothing better for the soul than to be surrounded – literally – by other lesbians. And there are a fair share of butches there, too.

It probably should be a saying that “where there are bikinis, there will be butches.” You know us. We are sporting the rad board shorts, paired with either a ribbed tank, surf shirt, or some sort of yoga top. There are even those of us that brave a bikini top with our swim trunks. I am not one of those butches. Forgetting for a moment that it’s a tiny bikini, no one wants to see my stomach in public.

We are the ones who go to the bar and bring back buckets of beer. The ones playing football, volleyball, or frisbee in the pool. The ones splashing the girls in bikinis. You know, on accident. Yeah, there are butches at Dinah. Femmes, too.

And you know what else? I’ll be there again this year. And, I’m excited to say, I’m bringing my wife! I went last year and definitely had fun. You can read about that here. But it will be nothing compared to the fun of enjoying this with her! I literally cannot wait. I will do my share of running to the bar for drinks for her, will gladly carry her beach bag, and will probably splash her “accidentally” once or twice – like a pathetic teenager.

Of course, in addition to enjoying, I will also tweet and post throughout Dinah. Hopefully, I will even get to do a few interviews before the event with some of the headline musicians and comedians. We will see! If things go right, I may even have some BOT stuff to give away. =:o)

So, I’m going. Are you? It’s butch to surround yourself with lesbians in bikinis. Be Butch.

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Here is the most recent press release for gobs of official details:

PALM SPRINGS, CA – More than 15,000 women from all over the world are once again expected to gather in Palm Springs, CA, to attend the biggest lesbian event of its kind in the world, Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend – the original Dinah Shore Weekend – slated for April 2 to April 6, 2014 (www.thedinah.com).

Celebrating this year its milestone 24th Anniversary, The Dinah is a one-of-a-kind destination where women of all ages, interests, ability, relationship status, cultural background and profession come together for one big giant celebration of the community. A life changing experience offering lesbians the opportunity to express themselves, to be who they truly and gain a tremendous amount of self worth.

The Dinah is also a unique five-day affair of lesbionic luxury and fun complete with epic pool parties, unique high-profile nightlife events, celebrity appearances, live performances, a famous celebrity Dodgeball game, a film festival, a Celebrity Poker Tournament, philanthropy, the hottest women, the best DJs, and so much more.

Turning this year again the city of Palm Springs into the ultimate entertainment hub, the 2014 Dinah Entertainment Roster delivers an epic slate of Top Ten Billboard headliners that make up one hell of a phenomenal line up – one of the greatest in The Dinah’s history.

Headlining this year is Lesbian cult favorites Tegan and Sara. The pop sensation duo will bring their “Heartthrob” world tour to The Dinah with an exclusive concert on Saturday, April 5 at “The Black Party” at the Palm Springs Convention Center. The twin sisters have been on an unstoppable meteoric rise since the release of their 7th studio album “Heartthrob” and the massive success of their lead single “Closer”. Their Dinah performance marks the first time the pop stars perform at an all lesbian event.
Also headlining the “Black Party” is female rap titan Eve. The Grammy-Award winning rapper will perform her slew of music anthems including “Satisfaction,” “Who’s That Girl”, “Gangsta Lovin’”, and “Let Me Blow Your Mind”. Also set to top the bill at the epic lesbian party is hip-hop’s biggest revelation Iggy Azalea who will take center stage at the iconic “White Party”, Friday, April 4 at the Palm Springs Convention Center.

The Dinah 2014 will also be rocked with special performances from 2014 Grammy nominee Mary Lambert, the voice behind Macklemore & Ryan Lewis’ VMA award-winning pro-equality “Same Love”; Grammy Award-Winning R&B diva, Evelyn “Champagne” King known for her multi-million selling classic old-school smashes “Shame” and ”Love Come Down”; Thea Austin, the legendary voice of “Rhythm is a Dancer” by Snap!; and power, pop/punk band and stars of “The Real L Word” Season 3, Hunter Valentine, to name a few.

On the comedy front, “The Dinah Comedy Night” hosted by Suzanne Westenhoefer will be headlined by Fortune Feimster of E! “Chelsea Lately”. The loveable Southern comic will be joined by Last Comic Standing alumni, British comic Gina Yashere and stand up’s fastest rising star, Erin Foley.

Returning this year is the “Celebrity Poker Tournament” with all proceeds going to the Human Rights Campaign (HRC). Celebrities joining the poker tables include Jill Bennett (“Second Shot”), Chef K (ABC “The Taste”), Guinevere Turner (“American Psycho”), Ari Fitz (“MTV The Real World Ex-Plosion”), Gloria Bigelow (“Wanda Sykes Presents Herlarious”), Tracy Ryerson (“The Real L Word”), and Brittany Wiener (Bravo “Millionaire Matchmaker”) among many others.

Also coming back is The Dinah Film Festival presented by OML, held on Friday, April 4, at 8:00 p.m at the Hilton Hotel. Produced by award-winning filmmaker JD DiSalvatore (the producer of Shelter, Marine Story and Elena undone, to name a few), the Dinah film Festival will showcase a variety of quality lesbian films including “Little Horribles” “Nikki & Nora”, “Kiss Her I’m Famous”, “Dyke Central”, and the short film “Secrets & Toys”, among others.

New this year is the “Battle of the DJs” hosted by Dinah’s resident DJs Lezlee, Asha, Lisa Pittman, Saratonin and Amara. The competition held over two-days will feature some of the best DJs on the West Coast!

If that weren’t hot enough, did we mention the exclusive L Word Pool Party?
Hosted in association with Showtime, The L Word Pool party will be held on Saturday April 5 at the Hilton Hotel.
L Word iconic stars, Leisha Hailey and Kate Moennig will, respectively, step back one more time into their famed Alice Pieszecki and Shane McCutcheon shoes for an exclusive meet and greet hosted from 2:30pm to 5:00pm in the grand Ballroom. As this year marks the 10th Anniversary of the official television debut of The L Word, Club Skirts and SHOWTIME are proudly commemorating the nostalgia of a memorable era in lesbian culture that celebrated out loud our “girls in tight dresses who drag with mustaches”!
The epic five-day world-renown weekend is already making a lot of noise and is well on its way to be the biggest Dinah EVER.

… this is going to be an unforgettable year!

For all the latest updates, the full Dinah 2014 schedule of events, entertainment line-up, as well as hotel information, tickets and VIP package options please go to: http://www.TheDinah.com

Follow us on Twitter: @dinahshore
Connect with us on Facebook: Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend


What is this, 1950?

Dear Unleashed by PETCO:

Hey, my wife and I are fans, and shop y’all exclusively. Perhaps you can imagine our shock tonight when I answered a call from a man at Legg Research (or something like that) calling me on your behalf. I answered and he said, “Is this the male of the household, sir?”

I said, “What? Did you just ask for the male of the household?” He answered affirmatively.

Petco, it is 2014. There are a great many households without a “male.” Lesbian, single, military wives, or otherwise. I mean, come on! My wife and I were absolutely shocked.

You need to instruct your research group to change their script immediately. Oh, and you can apologize to me – a formerly loyal customer – if you want to keep my business.

It’s not at all Butch to assume there’s a male in each household. Be Butch.


Exciting Dinah News!

I’m going to Dinah. Are you?

Check out this press release with new details:

CLUB SKIRTS IN ASSOCIATION WITH SHOWTIME® PRESENTS “THE L WORD®” DINAH POOL PARTY WITH AN EXCLUSIVE MEET & GREET WITH STARS KATE MOENNIG & LEISHA HAILEY

Palm Springs, CA – Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend, in association with SHOWTIME, is bringing back the magic of the hugely popular, groundbreaking lesbian drama, The L Word, with an exclusive “L Word” pool party during the legendary Dinah Shore Weekend in Palm Springs, CA.

On Saturday, April 5, 2014, The L Word stars Leisha Hailey and Kate Moennig will, respectively, step back one more time into their famed Alice Pieszecki and Shane McCutcheon shoes for an exclusive meet and greet hosted from 2:30pm to 5:00pm at The Hilton Hotel. Fans will also be able to catch them on the red carpet at the Dinah’s “Black Party” held later on Saturday night at the Palm Springs Convention Center.

Dinah attendees will have the once in a lifetime chance to take photos and get their favorite L Word memorabilia autographed by two of the most popular characters of the beloved, critically-acclaimed television series. In addition, limited edition The L Word swag will exclusively be given away throughout the event courtesy of SHOWTIME.

Since the show ended its five-year run on March 8, 2009, both Kate and Leisha have been keeping busy entertainment careers. Kate is currently starring on the hit series on SHOWTIME Ray Donovan, playing the role of Lena –one of Ray’s associates. She’s also filming “My Dead Boyfriend”, a film based on Arthur Nersesian’s 2000 novel Dogrun also starring Heather Graham, Gina Gershon and Angela Featherstone. As for Leisha, she’s still making music as one half of the acclaimed electropop duo Uh Huh Her and is getting ready to release the first single off “Future Souls” dubbed “Innocence” available February 4 on iTunes.

As this year marks the 10th Anniversary of the official television debut of The L Word, Club Skirts and SHOWTIME are proudly commemorating the nostalgia of a memorable era in lesbian culture that celebrated out loud our “girls in tight dresses who drag with mustaches”!

SHOWTIME has been a long-time supporter of the LGBT community with programs like The L Word and The Real L Word®, and has developed over the years a close relationship with Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend. The Dinah served as the focal location for both series.

We all remember Shane, Alice, Jenny, and Dana eventful roadtrip to The Dinah, the biggest lesbian event in the world, in Season One. Likewise, The Real L Word shot episodes of Season One and Two at Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend and notably dedicated two back-to-back full episodes to the event in its third season.

Speaking about The Real L Word, the reality TV show will also have a prominent presence at the highly-anticipated Pool Party with a live performance by Season 3 cast members, Hunter Valentine. The all-female Power, pop/punk band will take the stage at the Hilton Hotel at 5:00pm and will close the massive Pool Bash with a special meet & greet.

Countdown to Dinah has started!

The epic five-day world-renown weekend is already making a lot of noise and is well on its way to be the biggest Dinah EVER.

… this is going to be an unforgettable year!

For more information and/or to purchase tickets go to: http://www.TheDinah.com

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Why You Should Buy a Butch a Bow Tie for Valentine’s Day

I’m excited to share that I am now in print. Actual print. Like, you can pick it up and read my article in your hands. On paper. A local magazine called Gay San Diego asked me to write a Valentine’s Day piece. About bow ties. Turns out I am the Feature on page 3, and listed on the front page. Very exciting. For those of you not in SD, here is the digital copy…

Gay San Diego

As I’ve said before, it’s butch to wear a bow tie. Be Butch.

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My New Box

I’ve done it. It feels so… So… L-E-G-I-T-I-M-A-T-E. I got a post office box. A big one, too. Now you can send me stuff! Want me to see the cool bow ties you make, the all-in-one-bottle-opener-ball cap you designed, your wife’s prized petunias? You name it. Use the post office box.

I want to hear from you! Want to send a good old fashioned letter? (That’s on paper, with a pen, an envelope, and postage – gasp!). Use the post office box. Have something funny you want me to see? You know the drill.

For my part, I promise to read it, look at it, see it. I think I will even showcase rad things that people send. Won’t that be fun? That is, unless you send panties. Though I am a fan of panties in general, I rather enjoy my wife’s. And, at any rate, I don’t think she would appreciate them. Right.

So here we go:

ButchOnTap

PO BOX 27870

SAN DIEGO CA 92198

USA 

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There. It’s all settled. I’ve a post office box and I’d like you to fill it up with fun letters and whatnot. =:o) Box jokes are too obvious, but feel free to fill in the blanks.

It’s Butch to send ButchOnTap mail. Be Butch. Or if you are Femme, it’s Femme to send ButchOnTap mail. Be Femme.

 


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